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Lush’s Soft Coeur review

Hello all! Sorry I haven’t been posting as much.  Thanksgiving break was quite literally a break from ALL things for me.  Now that I’m back at college, I’ve been flooded with responsibilities and tasks that I have to complete before the end of the semester.  My last day of classes is the 8th of December and my last final is on the 13th.  Needless to say, I’m totally over my head.  

One luxury I’ve been treating myself to each morning, though, before I rush off to classes, is this little decadent massage bar from Lush.  I’ve never used a massage bar before and was quite intrigued to use it! Each morning, after my workout, shower, hair and makeup, I massage this bar into my arms and spritz my favorite perfume at the moment on my neck and wrists, which is Melanie Martinez’s Cry Baby perfume.  

The massage bar that I’ve been using specifically is Soft Coeur, which makes me smell like a chocolate bar with a hint of honey.  Honey is super moisturizing and since I usually wear long sleeves now with the cold weather, it’s really locked in to my skin and also makes my shirts smell good! Keep in mind massage bar oils tend to be greasy and a bit messy, but the lasting effect and pros of the bar outweigh the cons for me.  

You’re supposed to break the bar in half, according to the Lush website, but I’ve just been applying it to my skin directly.  It’s also noted that the bar can make you (or you’re special someone) taste good, but no one is tasting me so that part doesn’t really concern me!

The bar also has cocoa butter, cocoa powder and almond oil in it, which leaves my skin feeling super smooth and also adds to the already delicious scent.

I would recommend this product to anyone looking to moisten their skin to prevent the drying winter weather.  So cozy!

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Xoxo,

Amber

My Christmas Playlist

E8CF0BCC-8119-48D7-B47D-C094BC6BF4CCFor me personally, I believe playing Christmas playlist while you’re walking, driving or just chilling, during this time of year is perfectly acceptable.  Hell, if I’m gonna be honest, I started playing Christmas music on Halloween.  On one of my local radio stations, Christmas music begins playing nonstop starting on Thanksgiving.  I’ve created a Spotify Christmas playlist which I take requests for from my family members, similar to how I take requests from my uni friends for my “Party Tunes” playlist.  I always put it on shuffle and play it in the morning while I’m getting ready and then during the night time when I’m vegging out. So, with that said, check out the playlist on my Spotify under “Amber Canbek” and let me know if I’m missing any essential Christmas classics!

milk and honey review

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I usually don’t read poetry, but when I saw milk and honey by Rupi Kaur at the bookstore, a book that everyone has seen via Instagram and Tumblr, I decided to purchase it and see what all the fuss was about.  

This might not deem me a good reader of poetry, but I got through the book within a day. The poems were short and sweet (sometimes), simply stating the Kaur’s feelings on paper, alongside minimalistic sketches by the poet. The book itself is divided into four sections: “the hurting,” “the loving,” “the breaking,” and “the healing.”

Earlier this school year, I was saw the book on the bedside table of my dorm’s RA.  I asked her if it was any good and she said, “I only read it when I’m sad.” After reading the poetry book, I could understand why she would. Kaur lays out the highs and lows of her life on the pages and many of the things she describes in her poems, young women can relate to.

In “the hurting”, Kaur wrote about sexual assault, family struggles and things a young girl might face while growing up.  In my opinion, it was the saddest one out of the four chapter and not uplifting in the slightest, which made it all more raw and vulnerable.  My favorite from this section goes as follows:

“She was a rose
In the hands of those
Who had no intention
Of keeping her”

The next section, “the loving”, is more uplifting, but the reader can tell it will take a turn for the worse due to the title of the next chapter.  This section reminded me of my first love and how it made me feel, so this was the chapter I probably related to the most.  This section I believe is the sweetest of them all and the “honey”, so to speak.  Out of all of the sections, the poems from this chapter are the ones I would most likely want to post on social media, due to how idealistic they are.

“You look like you smell of
Honey and no pain
Let me have a taste of that”

“The breaking” was returns the reader to a depressing side of the novel as it Kaur writes about the breaking up with her long-term relationship. I could relate to this chapter as well, after I dealt with a nasty breakup.  Luckily, though, I got over it, and so did Kaur.  

“You mustn’t have to
Make them want you
They must want you themselves”

The last section of Kaur’s book of poems, “the healing,” is probably the most inspirational and empowering.  It tells women to embrace themselves, their femininity and heritage, and to love themselves always before loving another.  This chapter reminds women that we are stronger than we know, to respect ourselves, and not worry about what the boys think.

“You must enter a relationship
With yourself
Before anyone else”

Overall, I thought this book of poems was a good read and I would recommend it to anyone who might have gone through a rough break up.  

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Love, Amber

Retail therapy

(Coat – IZ Byer, Scarf – City Streets, Shirt – LA Hearts, Leggings – Maurices, Ring – Maurices, Shoes – East 5th)

October in upstate New York was mild, but as soon as November hit, it turned freaking cold! I didn’t have a winter jacket with me at school, so I decided to do some retail therapy. Taking time for myself to shop for an afternoon before my 2:30 class was something I really needed.  It took my mind off of a lot of things and during the shopping spree I bought a purse, a coat, jacket, gloves, Sweetbitter, and a moisturizer that I’ll be showing you all in a future post. So, with all of these new items I purchased, I thought I’d show you all some pictures of me wearing them in an OOTD-styled post.  These pictures were actually taken yesterday afternoon by my great friend Bobby (follow him on Insta @lynh.photography). I popped into the university’s cafe, which serves Starbucks coffee. #BLESSED. In this photo shoot I was actually sipping on a chestnut praline latte, if you were wondering. It was actually the first time I wore the City Streets scarf and the purse, which is by Colony One, but unfortunately I could not find the same bag online.  

For a college student that is constantly surrounded by basically the same things day-in and day-out, I think going out by yourself and enjoying whatever time you have off is a great way of self-care.  Sure, it left a bit of a dent in my bank account, but it was much needed.  Not only due to the fact that I didn’t have any winter clothes, but also because it helped me out mentally.  With finals around the corner and midterm grades lurking in the back of my mind, getting away from campus really helped me out.  

After I’ve finish posting this blog post, I will begin writing another book review, which you should be looking for within the next day or so.  Once that’s completed, I plan on finishing up a podcast that I’ve been working on for one of my classes.  Who knows? Maybe I’ll post the podcasts here once they’re done.  

Leave me a comment letting me know what you’re up to this weekend, and if you liked this blog post, please follow!

Love, Amber

Sweetbitter review

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Fast paced, dramatic, hard, and true.  Those are the words that I would use to describe Sweetbitter by Stephanie Danler.  If you were to mix Beat poetry with Crank and a dash of Gossip Girl, this book would be the byproduct.

This coming-of-age novel gripped me and I read it within three days.  The novel chronicles the life of Tess, a millennial who landed a job at a prestigious restaurant in NYC after running away from home, all by batting her eyes.  The restaurant, which is based on the Union Square Cafe, is filled with secret dramas which the unfortunate heroin stumbles upon and eventually becomes a part of.

Tess falls in love with the bartender, Jake, who has an odd relationship with the senior server, Simone.  Tess tries to develop a taste for wine and learns about the trade through Simone, all the while becoming closer to Jake.  After hours, the staff at the restaurant go to Park Bar, a dive bar, where they drink and snort cocaine into oblivion.  Addiction settles, in more ways than one, and Tess is free falling down in a harsh and cruel rabbit hole that she eventually has to crawl out of.  

The book itself is split up into the four seasons and sweet is turned into bitter.  Poem-styled recollections of lines dropped in conversations between staff members are scattered throughout the book: “It’s true, Chef called him a faggot.” “If one more bitch cuts me off to ask for Chardonnay–.” “And after I took the LSAT, I was like, wait, I don’t want to be a lawyer.” “But it smells like garbage and Fernet in there.”

Working in the “serving” industry, per se, I believe this book is spot on.  Servers in restaurants are no longer lesser-than those they serve, but on the same level, more or less.  They are those going to college, in college, or just graduated.  They know where the food is coming from, they have a system all of their own working behind-the-scenes, and have developed a palate all on their own.  They know what they want in life and still have the gumption and eagerness to get it.  Once a job performed by “degenerates” is now a highly coveted job performed by young white women paving a career path for themselves.  

But there is one thing the so-called “degenerates” and white youth have in common: we still drink and party too hard for our own good. “When I woke up again it was to a sunset I didn’t deserve,” the narrator said.  “I moved my neck first, craned it, looking down.  My jeans were on. My Converse were off, but my ankle socks were on, evidence of an outside presence.  I didn’t remember getting to my bed or to my apartment.  I sat up a bit more…There was a note safety-pinned to my shirt: ‘Please text me so I know you’re alive, Your Roommate, Jesse.’”  

The plot of a coked-out girl falling too hard for a guy that is no good for her may sound like it would become boring at parts, but the fact of the matter is, Danler writes so well and so truthfully, that the basic plot line can be excused.  Her writing doesn’t miss a beatt and can be described as sensory overload.  After the first chapter, I believed this work was Beat poetry in novel format. The sentences are brief, but powerful, with a few descriptive lists that make your mind wander.  For example: “BITTER: always a bit unanticipated. Coffee, chocolate, rosemary, citrus rinds, wine.  Once, when we were wild, it told us about poison. The mouth still hesitates at each new encounter.  We urge it forward, say, Adapt.  Now, enjoy it.”

Although Tess can be a Bella Swan of a character at points, nevertheless, I rooted for her, even in her desperate attempt to win the affections of the bad-boy bartender.  I suppose I knew it would end badly for her, but I rooted for her all the same.  

Before signing off, I have to mention that Sweetbitter is becoming a Starz show, backed by Brad Pitt.  The cast has already been selected and it’s only a matter of time before we start seeing previews for it.  I do not have a Starz account but I think I might cave and purchase one just to watch this series.  Perhaps when the show finally does come out I’ll do a review on that. Let me know what you think in the comments below and if you want more book reviews, please subscribe to my blog!

Happy Halloween!

Hello everyone! I was hoping this post would go up before Halloween, but unfortunately some things have gotten in the way. I hope you’re all having fun celebrating with Halloween festivities.

For me, the hype leading up to Halloweekend was real and when it finally arrived I was stoked.  This year was the first time I celebrated Halloweekend at my school.  Freshman year I was a hermit, because the year before I had a somewhat bad experience during Halloweekend festivities happening at a different school. This year, though, I found Halloweekend as a way to have fun, spend time with friends, and not really worry about much else.         

Thursday night, I went to a Halloween party being thrown by a club at my school with my friend Emma as minions.  It was a cheap and easy costume to do, all you really need is a yellow or purple shirt, suspenders, and minion goggles.  I don’t have links to the items used as I didn’t purchase them and they were all thanks to Emma.  You can check out how the costumes turned out on my Instagram.

Friday night I went as one of the most basic Halloween costumes that every girl dressed up as last year: Harley Quinn from Suicide Squad.  I know, I’m a year late on the bandwagon. Whatever, though.  I had the shirt and jacket from last year and decided I might as well wear them and dress up as her.  All I really had to do was put my hair in pigtails, wear a bright red lip, do the face tattoos, and put blue and red/hot pink eyeshadow on the eyes.  A lot of people liked my costume, though, and I’m happy about that.  

On the last night of Halloweekend, I dressed up as a bunny, and no, I wouldn’t say it was sexy.  I still joked around, though and said it was my tribute to the deceased Hefner.  I got the lace bunny ears for $8 at Spirit Halloween and wore skinny jeans and a pale pink chunky knit sweater from Pacsun. For makeup I used a grey matte liquid lipstick, a primer to make my makeup last all night, and the Naked 2 palette.  I used the shade “Foxy” as a base, “Verve” on my lid and blended in “Pistol” in my crease. You can see the completed look on my Instagram.  

I hope you all have a fun Halloween! I’ll be cuddled up in bed watching Halloween themed movies with a hot cup of cider. BEST. NIGHT. EVER!

Daddy’s Little Monster shirt 
Property of the Joker jacket (could not find the exact same one on Hot Topic, but it’s sold elsewhere on eBay and other websites. There is a leather one on Hot Topic)
Lace bunny ears
Naked 2 palette
Benefit’s Porefessional Primer
Smashbox Liquid Lip in “Chill Zone”
Stila black eye liner
Sephora shadow in “Red Carpet” 
L’Oreal blue shadow duo (couldn’t find the same exact one)
MAC liquid lip in “Dance With Me” 

 

Food for thought?

Food is an essential to every one’s life, obviously, but our relationship with food varies and can affect us in many different ways.

The past few months, I’ve been trying to eat healthier and be more mindful of what I put into my body.  I started this journey in July and have lost 25 pounds so far, but I still have more to lose. Disclaimer, I’ve been losing this weight “the healthy way”, so to speak.  I do not have an eating disorder.  Through this journey, though, I’ve become more aware of my eating habits and my relationship with food.  So, on that note…

I was a chaotic eater.  I would not eat breakfast, or anything during the work day, so when I did eat, it would be unhealthy and more like a binge.  This usually happens during school and work days, but on days I have off, I just graze and don’t have set meal plans, unless I’m eating with my family. 

I ate particularly well throughout elementary and middle school, but then when high school rolled around, my meals became varied between eating too little and eating too much.  

One example of this, is when I didn’t eat breakfast before school, and didn’t eat anything during the school day, but instead just chugged water all day.  Then when tennis rolled around, and the team went to McDonald’s before the match, I would just eat a shit ton of fast food.  The thing is, I did not feel hungry at all during the day, so I thought that it was OK.  The second situation I can think of is more recent, as it happened last year during my first year at uni.  The only thing I ate all day was a sleeve of Saltine crackers, which I just grazed on throughout the day.  Needless to say, I ate like a 10 year old. Junk and snack foods were what I ate the majority of the time.  

I was always brought up to finish my meals, even one’s I did not like, but I was a fighter.  As a child, some nights I spent sitting at the dinner table looking at a plate full of food I did not want to eat (goulash and Hamburger Helper were the worst), missing my 8 o’clock episode of That’s So Raven.  My mom wanted me to finish what I had on my plate, and I understand why one would want their child to finish their meals, but when I left the environment of structured eating, I adopted unhealthy eating habits.  

It was during the spring of my freshman year in college when I got on the scale and was completely disgusted and disappointed with myself.  I knew that I did not like what I saw on the scale, so I decided to change for the better.  Alongside my mom during this past summer, we started to plan our meals around a healthy caloric intake diet, based on our age, height and weight. We did not have to count the calories and fruits and vegetables, which helped and made us eat healthier altogether.  

I’ve become more in tune with my eating habits and have become more aware of what I put into my body.  One of the things I love about my uni is that they have the nutritional facts on what they serve in the dining hall, so I’m able to plan my meals a week in advance if need be.  I like tracking my meals ahead of time, so I don’t go into the dining hall wondering what I should and shouldn’t eat, but already have it planned.  Before, I was afraid of food and thought of it more as a vice and now I’ve adopted a motto my grandfather told me about eating: Don’t live to eat, but eat to live.  

Although I’m still a distance from my goal weight, I am more confident in myself about getting there, as I’ve learned how to maintain a healthy diet, but still be able to enjoy food.  

So I guess this topic brings me to ask, what is your relationship with food? What do you like to eat? Are you adventurous or do you stick with what you know. Let me know in the comments below!