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milk and honey review

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I usually don’t read poetry, but when I saw milk and honey by Rupi Kaur at the bookstore, a book that everyone has seen via Instagram and Tumblr, I decided to purchase it and see what all the fuss was about.  

This might not deem me a good reader of poetry, but I got through the book within a day. The poems were short and sweet (sometimes), simply stating the Kaur’s feelings on paper, alongside minimalistic sketches by the poet. The book itself is divided into four sections: “the hurting,” “the loving,” “the breaking,” and “the healing.”

Earlier this school year, I was saw the book on the bedside table of my dorm’s RA.  I asked her if it was any good and she said, “I only read it when I’m sad.” After reading the poetry book, I could understand why she would. Kaur lays out the highs and lows of her life on the pages and many of the things she describes in her poems, young women can relate to.

In “the hurting”, Kaur wrote about sexual assault, family struggles and things a young girl might face while growing up.  In my opinion, it was the saddest one out of the four chapter and not uplifting in the slightest, which made it all more raw and vulnerable.  My favorite from this section goes as follows:

“She was a rose
In the hands of those
Who had no intention
Of keeping her”

The next section, “the loving”, is more uplifting, but the reader can tell it will take a turn for the worse due to the title of the next chapter.  This section reminded me of my first love and how it made me feel, so this was the chapter I probably related to the most.  This section I believe is the sweetest of them all and the “honey”, so to speak.  Out of all of the sections, the poems from this chapter are the ones I would most likely want to post on social media, due to how idealistic they are.

“You look like you smell of
Honey and no pain
Let me have a taste of that”

“The breaking” was returns the reader to a depressing side of the novel as it Kaur writes about the breaking up with her long-term relationship. I could relate to this chapter as well, after I dealt with a nasty breakup.  Luckily, though, I got over it, and so did Kaur.  

“You mustn’t have to
Make them want you
They must want you themselves”

The last section of Kaur’s book of poems, “the healing,” is probably the most inspirational and empowering.  It tells women to embrace themselves, their femininity and heritage, and to love themselves always before loving another.  This chapter reminds women that we are stronger than we know, to respect ourselves, and not worry about what the boys think.

“You must enter a relationship
With yourself
Before anyone else”

Overall, I thought this book of poems was a good read and I would recommend it to anyone who might have gone through a rough break up.  

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Love, Amber

Retail therapy

(Coat – IZ Byer, Scarf – City Streets, Shirt – LA Hearts, Leggings – Maurices, Ring – Maurices, Shoes – East 5th)

October in upstate New York was mild, but as soon as November hit, it turned freaking cold! I didn’t have a winter jacket with me at school, so I decided to do some retail therapy. Taking time for myself to shop for an afternoon before my 2:30 class was something I really needed.  It took my mind off of a lot of things and during the shopping spree I bought a purse, a coat, jacket, gloves, Sweetbitter, and a moisturizer that I’ll be showing you all in a future post. So, with all of these new items I purchased, I thought I’d show you all some pictures of me wearing them in an OOTD-styled post.  These pictures were actually taken yesterday afternoon by my great friend Bobby (follow him on Insta @lynh.photography). I popped into the university’s cafe, which serves Starbucks coffee. #BLESSED. In this photo shoot I was actually sipping on a chestnut praline latte, if you were wondering. It was actually the first time I wore the City Streets scarf and the purse, which is by Colony One, but unfortunately I could not find the same bag online.  

For a college student that is constantly surrounded by basically the same things day-in and day-out, I think going out by yourself and enjoying whatever time you have off is a great way of self-care.  Sure, it left a bit of a dent in my bank account, but it was much needed.  Not only due to the fact that I didn’t have any winter clothes, but also because it helped me out mentally.  With finals around the corner and midterm grades lurking in the back of my mind, getting away from campus really helped me out.  

After I’ve finish posting this blog post, I will begin writing another book review, which you should be looking for within the next day or so.  Once that’s completed, I plan on finishing up a podcast that I’ve been working on for one of my classes.  Who knows? Maybe I’ll post the podcasts here once they’re done.  

Leave me a comment letting me know what you’re up to this weekend, and if you liked this blog post, please follow!

Love, Amber

Food for thought?

Food is an essential to every one’s life, obviously, but our relationship with food varies and can affect us in many different ways.

The past few months, I’ve been trying to eat healthier and be more mindful of what I put into my body.  I started this journey in July and have lost 25 pounds so far, but I still have more to lose. Disclaimer, I’ve been losing this weight “the healthy way”, so to speak.  I do not have an eating disorder.  Through this journey, though, I’ve become more aware of my eating habits and my relationship with food.  So, on that note…

I was a chaotic eater.  I would not eat breakfast, or anything during the work day, so when I did eat, it would be unhealthy and more like a binge.  This usually happens during school and work days, but on days I have off, I just graze and don’t have set meal plans, unless I’m eating with my family. 

I ate particularly well throughout elementary and middle school, but then when high school rolled around, my meals became varied between eating too little and eating too much.  

One example of this, is when I didn’t eat breakfast before school, and didn’t eat anything during the school day, but instead just chugged water all day.  Then when tennis rolled around, and the team went to McDonald’s before the match, I would just eat a shit ton of fast food.  The thing is, I did not feel hungry at all during the day, so I thought that it was OK.  The second situation I can think of is more recent, as it happened last year during my first year at uni.  The only thing I ate all day was a sleeve of Saltine crackers, which I just grazed on throughout the day.  Needless to say, I ate like a 10 year old. Junk and snack foods were what I ate the majority of the time.  

I was always brought up to finish my meals, even one’s I did not like, but I was a fighter.  As a child, some nights I spent sitting at the dinner table looking at a plate full of food I did not want to eat (goulash and Hamburger Helper were the worst), missing my 8 o’clock episode of That’s So Raven.  My mom wanted me to finish what I had on my plate, and I understand why one would want their child to finish their meals, but when I left the environment of structured eating, I adopted unhealthy eating habits.  

It was during the spring of my freshman year in college when I got on the scale and was completely disgusted and disappointed with myself.  I knew that I did not like what I saw on the scale, so I decided to change for the better.  Alongside my mom during this past summer, we started to plan our meals around a healthy caloric intake diet, based on our age, height and weight. We did not have to count the calories and fruits and vegetables, which helped and made us eat healthier altogether.  

I’ve become more in tune with my eating habits and have become more aware of what I put into my body.  One of the things I love about my uni is that they have the nutritional facts on what they serve in the dining hall, so I’m able to plan my meals a week in advance if need be.  I like tracking my meals ahead of time, so I don’t go into the dining hall wondering what I should and shouldn’t eat, but already have it planned.  Before, I was afraid of food and thought of it more as a vice and now I’ve adopted a motto my grandfather told me about eating: Don’t live to eat, but eat to live.  

Although I’m still a distance from my goal weight, I am more confident in myself about getting there, as I’ve learned how to maintain a healthy diet, but still be able to enjoy food.  

So I guess this topic brings me to ask, what is your relationship with food? What do you like to eat? Are you adventurous or do you stick with what you know. Let me know in the comments below!   

Bookshelf Sunday: Bright Lights Paris

Bright Lights Paris, is written by Angie Niles, who is a fashion publicist and brand consultant.  May I also add that she is a friend of Blake Lively, one of my beauty and fashion icons.  According to the cover, this book is supposed to help you “shop, dine, and live…Parisian style.” Did it? Yes and no.

The majority of the book is a guide to the local hot spots of the different arrondissements of Paris, showing you how all of the different girls from each of the 12 arrondissements live their day-to-day life, including where they shop, dine and where they go to get away from the hustle and bustle of Paris.  So, in that aspect, it does not teach you how to live like a Parisian, but is a list of recommendations on where to go if you ever find yourself in Paris.  

But, there are some bits scattered throughout the book that tell you how you can bring some Parisian style into your everyday life and how to get a taste of Paris from home.  These included different skin care products Parisian women use, recipes from Parisian chefs, and how you can decorate your home…Parisian style, of course.  It was these parts of the book I enjoyed the much, as I have the realistic mindset of knowing that I will probably not be able to go to Paris for quite some time in my life.  Perhaps when I’m out of college will I ever go to the city of lights.  

Also, the different graphics on each of the chapter pages are super cute and please my aesthetic…I know, I can go home now.  

Overall, I enjoyed this book.  Being a gal who obsesses over Paris (despite me never being there), this book was right up my alley.  Needless to say, I loved this book and I would recommend it to any girl that is as obsessed with the idea of living the Parisian life.  As the Parisians like to say, c’est sympa.